Some say money is power, but I disagree.
I believe that knowledge is power.
Once you know the kinds of things that you should be doing get the most out of your life, money becomes irrelevant. If you are truly enjoying yourself in whatever you do and living the life you without even thinking of money too much, well then you are at a place most would only dream of.
If you are still on the path to uncompromising happiness (like most of us are), there are several techniques that will help you along your way that I have seen to be true for many individuals throughout the years.
Be Genuinely Interested
Not only is it important to listen to what they have to say, but to be genuinely interested in what they are saying. Most of the time a person you just met will do their best to say things they think you will be interested in.
It is your job to appreciate the fact that the person you are speaking with, may be trying really hard to impress you or just be friends with you. Dont make it hard on them, help them to help you to like them!
Pay special attention to everything they say with open ears, and respond accordingly. And if all else fails, you can simply wait for your turn to speak, and gently change the conversation to something more along the lines of your interests!
Help Others When They Need It
There are a lot of methods to becoming happy in life. Some routes to happiness are far more revealing that others. For example, owning an airplane or a beach house in Bora Bora would be a few of mine.
However, a lot can be said for the happiness that you feel when you put time aside to be used on helping other people. i.e. doing good things for others without ever expecting anything returned.
A lot of people would snuff their nose at this idea, and thats understandable. This kind of happiness, the kind you get from helping others is not as tangible, so to speak, as the happiness you would feel buying yourself a brand new home.
But just because its harder to see the benefits, does not mean that they do not exist. Or that they are not important. It so easy nowadays to become self centered, and more concerned with your own well being that that of any one elses.
Its what some of our most influential movie stars lead us to believe, however we must see through this and be strong enough to make the right decisions, follow our own code, and never falter as a result of anyone elses influence.
Dont Care What Other People Think
Powerful people dont give a f*** about what others think. They do what they believe is right, and fully commit to it. They make things happen, instead of making sure everybody is ok with it.
Bottom line is they dont care if something may be perceived as right or wrong, because if someone is judging them, they know that judgmental person would never have become a friend anyway.
Simply follow a just and morally correct code, and always be true to that code. If you know that you are doing the right thing then there is absolutely no need to give a damn about what somebody else thinks.
Fewer Friends = Less Drama
Keep your circle tight. Nowadays we have a plethora of friends with whom we somehow manage to keep in contact with on a regular if not somewhat regular basis. Its difficult to imagine how much time is actually accumulated whilst spending it with these people with whom we spend so much time.
While its only natural to lose contact with some college buddies or high school pals, if you were to sit down and actually make a list of the people you are friends with, Im sure you would be quite surprised. The list would be quite long for most.
Dont get me wrong here, a large amount of friends is a good thing, most of the time. It means that youre popular, or at least a person that other people like and thats also a good thing, however too many friends can hinder you.
Too many friends is great when your in school and college, however when you are on a mission to achieve your goals, you must understand that every person you spend time with is essentially taking time from you that you could have spent working towards achieving your goals. Im sure they mean well, and Im sure that you are just being friendly too, but the truth is that the people you keep company with are a reflection of who you are.
The Best Company
You will find that you are more energetic, and far more optimistic and excited to meet or speak with your tight circle of friends that you were before when you had so many buddies that were quite difficult to keep up with.
Instead you now have a group of friends whom you are close with, and another, larger group of acquaintances or distant friends with whom you are friendly, but not over inclined to spend a lot, if any, time with.
Dont Ever Seek Attention
It can be quite boring to hear another constantly boast about their own accomplishments. Whether it be past, present or future. Not only does it show you are more selfish and prefer talking about yourself, but it alerts others to the fact that you may not want to hear what they have to say at all.
“Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.” – Jim Rohn
Instead, hold a genuine conversation. Ask others about their interests, and eventually their thought on a particular topic. Once they have said their piece and you have given a genuine response, you can then tell them about what sort of action you have taken on the particular area or what activities of note you have been involved in.
Smiles Are Contagious
Smiles are most definitely one of the most important actions we can take to spread happiness to the people we come into contact with. It takes literally no effort, and almost always results in receiving a smile back.
A simple smile also offers re-assurance to whomever you are speaking with. Not only that but it makes you feel more comfortable with the current situation, allowing more creative ideas to flow which in turn sparks a more meaningful conversation.
Plus if you are not actually really enjoying whats being said, just smile anyway. I guarantee that after a few minutes you will feel more keen about the conversation at hand.