So you want to be more confident in yourself and you abilities? No problem.
Now I’m sure that your aware your not born with confidence, however some simple modifications in your daily rituals will greatly increase your self worth.
There are 100’s of techniques to this, and in this post, I will cover 6 of them.
1. Do Something New Every Day
Have you ever set a new years resolutions? Just the one or several? Well this point is based on the same principle. You must endeavour to do something new and hopefully exciting every day.
Taking up a new challenge every day will essentially force you outside of your comfort zone and will also get your creative juices flowing. You will feel much better about yourself knowing that you are trying something new on a daily basis.
Mixing up your routine will make you stronger as a person as you become more reliant on your own abilities. This will in turn make you feel more accustomed to using your own skills and talents to get by, better preparing you for any situation that may arise. This will, no doubt, help you strengthen your own self confidence.
2. Wear Comfortable/Confident Clothes
There’s a famous quote that reads “Whether you think you can or you cannot, your right”. I think it’s important to remember this quote when purchasing new clothes for the sole reason that when you wear clothes that make you feel comfortable, confident and relaxed, that is exactly how you will carry yourself.
It is how you carry yourself and how you act that essentially determines how you feel in the long run. You may get a burst of confidence here and there for different reasons such as a powerful song, movie or situation, however if you consistently wear clothes that make you feel good about yourself, you will always feel the power that you truly have within yourself.
And you hold the key to letting it free…. or locking it up.
3. Use Confident Body Language
No matter what your wear or if you do something new each day, I think you will ultimately lose any spark of confidence you may have if you don’t use confident body language on a frequent basis.
If your at a party, don’t be the one sitting down alone on the couch, listening in on other people’s conversations. Be the person standing up in the middle of the group, sharing your thoughts and opinions on a range of matter’s. But don’t leave it at that, ask other’s for their opinion too and be ready to defend your own opinions too, in a calm and confident manner, if needs be.
But don’t worry, if this is a little difficult for you just keep trying. Some people say you should “fake it until you make it”, so simply portraying a sense of confidence if sufficient for now as long as you actively work on developing your own inner confidence.
4. Speak With a Confident Voice
Following on from the last example about standing up in the middle of a group and expressing your own opinion and thoughts… if your simply saying what you think in a low & soft voice, the people to whom you are speaking will not relate to what you are saying… and this is not a good sign.
Speak up. Use a slow & calm voice, which is coming up from deep in you chest, not just out of your mouth. Look every person in the group in the eye to make sure they are feeling what you mean.
When other’s can see your passion for a particular topic, when they can see that you truly believe in what you are saying, they will appreciate what it is you are saying all the more. Even if you are wrong, they will still want to believe because they can truly feel your passion, most of the time.
However sometimes they will disagree, and that is perfectly ok. Don’t jump to saying that they are totally wrong, no matter how much you believe they are. Simply give them their shot at explaining why they think the way they do. Respect them and their opinions, they way you would like them to respect you are yours.
5. Don’t Compare Yourself to Others
It is absolutely essential that you never compare yourself to others. No matter what. Comparing your achievements, family, social standing or bank account with that of other’s is a great way to land you mixed feelings, feelings which are completely our of place.
You have never been in their shoe’s and you never will be. You don’t know what their life is like or what they have been through. The path they have taken to get to a particular point is completely different to your own, and so, there is no accurate comparison to be made.
The only person you should compare yourself with, is the person you were yesterday, last week or some other time in the past. You are the maker of your own future and everything you base your goals and aspirations on should be considering what you have accomplished in the past and what it meant for you.
When you truly decide that you will be a better person… well guess what? YOU WILL.
6. Use Positive Self-Talk Every Morning and Every Night
Ok so I just really wanted to put this one in. I love this tip. Whether you realise it or not, this habit is in fact the concrete structure that holds the previous 5 habits true.
My advice? Get a big mirror in your room. If anybody says your just being vain, well all you have to do is ignore them and prove them wrong in your unstoppable waves of confidence that never loose strength. Use that mirror to look into your own eyes & recite all the things that make you unique. All the things that make you special and all the things that other’s wish they had.
You are an amazing person, no matter what anybody says. You have unique qualities and you are a treasure to have in this world. The sooner you humbly accept this fact and let it take hold of you, I guarantee you will create an aurora of incredible light. and. you, will shine.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
I really hope you guys like this post and can relate to what it’s about.
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